Everything around you is a direct reflection of who you are.
If you feel like you are not happy in your life, you need to look within yourself and realize the cause of that problem. What is it that you are not doing? Why do you feel stressed? Why are you unhappy? Why are you not succeeding? Why are you not where you want to be? Often time people are quick to blame other things that have nothing to do with their success. You hear things like well I grew up poor, my dad wasn’t in my life, my parents were on drugs, I have been in bad relationships. Sure, those are difficult situations to deal with, but, that is no excuse. You have to look in the mirror and point your finger at YOURSELF.
If you are not where you want to be, it is time to stop playing the victim. No matter what happens in your life, YOU choose how to react. Also, YOU choose your surroundings.
You must be willing to destroy everything in your life that is not excellent.
If you are surrounding yourself with losers, you will end up being a loser. If you surround yourself with people who are doing drugs, you will probably end up doing drugs. If you surround yourself with people who don’t have any drive or passion, you will not have any drive or passion. Think about it for a minute. What do the people around you want to achieve in their lives? What do those people think of themselves? Are they happy? Do they make smart decisions? Are they taking steps to improve and benefit their life? If the answer is no to those questions, get those people out of your life.
Get the energy drainers out of your life, people who have no goals, people that don’t want success, people who are not challenging themselves, people who aren’t growing, people that have stopped dreaming. If you surround yourself with people like this, you will absorb their energy, their attitude towards life, their character, and you will probably end up making the same mistakes as them. Do you want to live your life believing that you are worthless, believing that you have no potential, or that you have no chance of a phenomenal life? If not, it is time to make drastic changes in your life to start moving in the direction that you want to go. Stop letting people treat you however they want, stop being a victim, stop acting like everyone is out to get you because if you don’t, it will become a culture. You will begin to feel comfort with failure, comfort with bad relationships, and comfort with being a victim. It becomes a routine that people are used to. For your sake, I hope you never fall into that trap.
There are a lot of people placed at a disadvantage. Trust me, I am one of those people. My dad wasn’t in my life. My mom was a single mother and I grew up poor. I lived in a bad neighborhood. But guess what? None of that is an excuse. If anything, struggling like that should make you even more hungry. I know what it feels like to be at the bottom. I know what it feels like to have no money. I know what it feels like to be hungry. I know how it feels to be looked at as a failure. The turning point for me was when I stopped blaming everyone else for my problems and started taking responsibility for my actions. Just because you grew up poor, doesn’t mean you have to be poor forever. Just because your parents weren’t successful, doesn’t mean that you can’t be. I can say a million more of those, but you get the point. Where do you want to be in your life? How successful do you want to be? After asking yourself those questions, think about the environment to place yourself in to get you to that point.
Surround yourself with people who see greatness in you.
Do you think people who want to be rich should be hanging out with people who are broke? Do you think people who want to be happy should be hanging out with people who are miserable? Do you think people with drive should hangout with people who are lazy? The answer is obviously no. Yet people still surround themselves with people who are destroying their lives everyday. If you are stuck in your life right now. It is time to try a new approach.
Surround yourself with people who refuse to live their life as it is. Surround yourself with people who are hungry for the same things as you. Surround yourself with people that have goals, passion, and positive energy. Get rid of things, people, situations, relationships, friendships, and surroundings that are causing you to fail. Tell yourself that you will no long walk in the direction of those who are causing you pain, those who cause your family to look down on you, and those who cause you to be unhappy. Your environment can impact your life forever. Your happiness, your compassion, your outlook on life, your drive, your behavior, and your success are all a product of your environment.
Think about your environment right now. Think about your home life, friends, places you hangout, work environment, and relationships. If you see problems in any of these, you need to change them. If your friends are constantly in trouble, and constantly causing you to make poor choices. It is time to choose new friends. If you are unhappy at work and hate what you do, quit. Your happiness in more important than a job. If you are dating someone who walks all over you and treats you like shit, leave them. You deserve better for yourself. You will never get to where you want to go if you keep letting people who don’t matter drag you down.
It may be hard to let go of the things that you are used to. We seek comfort in what is familiar, it is human nature. We must break that and think outside the box. If you want to live an unsuccessful life in pain and sadness then keep blaming other people for what you do, keep hanging out with the same people who put you in bad situations, and keep letting people walk all over you. So many people rather just “fit in” than be loyal to themselves. It is time for you to stand up and be inspired by what you want. No matter where you come from or what you’ve done, you can change. You just have to believe in yourself. Surround yourself with people who believe in you. Surround yourself with people that want to see you succeed. Surround yourself with people that love life. Soon, you will develop these habits and be well on your way to a better life. Your environment is everything. Put yourself in the right places, and around the right people. You will begin to see everything in a completely different view. I promise, it will change your life forever.